Coming Out + Being ‘Out’

Whether you’ve already had sex with men, or you’ve just started to consider the possibility, making sense of your sexuality and being able to share it with others is an important aspect of a healthy and fulfilling life. It might be one of the hardest things you’ll ever have to do and may require time and careful planning, but “coming out” opens a world of opportunity to live openly and happily as a gay or bisexual man.

Coming Out in a Conservative Family
or Cultural Environment

Coming out can be a liberating experience of self-acceptance, discovery, and empowerment, but it can also be risky, complicated, and painfully stressful, particularly when we anticipate rejection, exclusion, or worse from our families. Whether it’s because of cultural or religious factors, the idea of coming out to our family and cultural community can be a terrifying prospect when we fear we won’t be accepted.

Homophobia and a lack of family acceptance or support are difficult realities that many gay and bisexual men who have come out have had to confront and persevere through. Not everyone deals with the adversity of coming out in an unsupportive environment the same way, but it’s a challenge that many have taken up and overcome in their own way as they move forward with their lives as gay or bisexual men.

Making a decision to come out to your family isn’t something that you have to do right away. Some men struggle with the challenge of coming out to their families their entire lives, and some make a decision to never share this information with their family.

But countless others have found the strength to be open about their new lives as gay and bisexual men with their families and others perceived to be less than accepting of homosexuality. While it’s fairly common to initially encounter disappointment, anger, and in some cases rejection and exclusion, many people who have come out in conservative environments have been able to maintain or even strengthen their relationships with their families.